Sufis believe that it is always god who takes the initiative. Even when you become religious, even when you start searching for god, it is he who starts it first. Maybe you are not conscious about it, maybe you have heard him only in your deep sleep, maybe in your dreams he has entered, maybe not even that visible…. He may have stirred something in your deepest core of being; only then do you started searching.
This is a very beautiful understanding. It says only god searches; we respond. We are his echoes; we cannot act on our own; we only reflect. Hence the meaning: chosen friend of god, one who has been chosen by god already.
Before a man chooses god, god has chosen him already, but this is revealed only in the last moment of realization. When the ego completely disappears, it is realized – that this was not your search: it was god’s search for himself through you, via you. You were not more than a mirror: god was looking through the mirror at his own face. But that happens only in the last moment when the ego has completely been dropped. Suddenly one realizes that one was nothing but an echo, a reflection. So how can the reflection search for the original? There is no possibility; only the original can search.
That is one of the deepest meanings of the word ’sufi’.
~Osho – The No Book